*Warning*

You may become uncomfortable and unsteady reading the post. Stay present, and explore.

What would life be like if we never listened to ourselves? What do we want on a deep level? That should be an easy visualization. Some people have not realized that they have an inner voice, but they choose to ignore this voice for things that give them less validation, happiness, and fulfillment. 

Whether you are deeply into watching TV, or you love to hang out at the bar with some friends, we all have our way of escaping the reality that is calling us. This voice is calling for our true authentic self, calling for us to open up to ourselves and live a life that desires our gifts.

I put a warning label into the article because listening to the inner voice is something we do not want to hear. Listening invokes doing, which is uncomfortable. But why? Why do people go to such great lengths to ignore, escape, run away from themselves to keep their comfort, to keep the fake peace they distill? 

I want to sidestep and talk about this kind of position first. Listening to your inner voice is detrimental to you and your progress, not to mention what you can do about it!

The spectrum of dissonance and presence. Total Resistance versus absolute value. Inhabitance with the inner voice. 

So I threw at you a whole bunch of terminology, and I am sorry about that (not really). So, to help you understand the importance of the inner voice, I wanted to share a simple visual. The spectrum shifts. From not being present with your inner voice and being asleep to your true desires being present with your voice.

On one side, the resistant side, whatever your true desires are, your fears are triumphing. Where you want to succeed in and do for yourself and the world, your laziness keeps your lethargic monologue in place. Your ego maintains dissonance, and it stays present like a century-old regime. 

If there is something that comes along that wants to change the structure inside you, it negated to keep the current reality in place. This negation can look something like if you were to challenge a parental figure about something they think they know to be true. In this situation, the parent is often unable to adjust or accept new information. 

The issue may be that this dad wants to live through his son vicariously. Maybe he has not been able to live out something in his past, unaware that he can still accomplish what he is yearning to accomplish. We seldom think that challenging crap people say or bringing awareness to what looks like is happening would change something, but this is never the case or the solution. 

If someone you know is rejecting a reality that might be true for them, well, go back to my regime analogy. This way of thinking is concrete without the very person realizing how detrimental it is. Once they have that awakening, they then start to shift. People change through curiosity, and I never recommend trying to fix anyone on their journey without them being curious. Even if you thought it was a good idea to share perspective on something. People live their own life, and unless requested, we should remain supportive and present around others who are resistant to their inner voice. Let them figure it out.

How does this tie into the inner voice? Think about your life as it is right now and where you currently stand in your life. I guarantee you there has at some point been a decision you have had to make that goes against your inner voice or an aspect of life you are avoiding.

When your voice calls out to you, you want to drown out this voice/sound with music, TV, people in your life that are interfering with your headspace. Meanwhile, this inner voice is present, patiently waiting for you to let it speak to you. Your inner voice is unlike your head. Your inner voice is not talking to you for direction but to tell you what truly matters to your life and what is beneficial. 

For example,

If you have been avoiding the idea that your current partner is no longer a match for you, your voice will say something like:

“Being with this person does not feel right anymore, and that is okay. Even though I might hurt them, these are life growing pains, and I have to remember to take care of myself.”

The inner voice intends to take care of you and wants to nurture you and your soul. When we ignore our inner voice, we are neglecting ourselves and what we truly want. We may desire one thing but know that something is calling to us in the distance. That thing may be a difficult journey, but it may involve work, blood, or tears. 

Being open to your inner voice is the path to being present, and therefore yourself. The inner voice helps you guide yourself into what most fits you, your journey, your expansion, and your happiness.

Individuals who are resistant to the voice will succumb only to logic and gut instinct, that which is practical, safe, and comforting. When we detach from our heart, our inner voice becomes subjective. Your internal guidance system is less logical and more about not needing a sound reason. 

For the heart and the inner voice, logic, and instinct is only a vessel for particular uses, like needing a car to go to the store or use a pen to write. For both centers, they use one another in certain instances, and this is fair because both (heart and mind) have different agendas.

Remember that when we neglect our wants in life, we neglect hard decisions with distractions. We are doing a disservice to ourselves and our future and current happiness. The inner voice may say that you should change careers, or it may tell you to break up with your partner. The inner voice may want you to yearn for the love of your parents. The inner voice may get angry at someone for disrespecting you or tell you to walk away from something. 

For only a moment, when we are present with our inner voice, we can hear within a fraction of a second what it wants to say, and like that, wisdom travel back inwards. The inner voice only speaks for such a quick moment in time. The voice is heard and felt instantaneously.

The examples mentioned earlier to listen to your inner voice is endless. We have to remember that on this spectrum of either being resistant or open to yourself and the inner voice, your life will look dramatically different. The middle of this spectrum is usually the best place to be. You need the balance between your heart and mind, inner voice, and ego/ logic, or whatever you may call your head center. 

This balance enables you to effectively engage in situations with the pose and logical willpower while tending to your soulful and personal needs.

I want you for a moment to visualize what this kind of balance looks like for you. This exercise is not existential enlightenment. This exercise is a real experience that you can train and grow. Imagine what your life looks like, where you are, what you are doing, and who may be in your life. In the exercise, it is important to see life beyond the comforts. 

Only for a moment should we relax into comfort, relax into dissonance, but then spring into motion, into knowing from the inner voice. 

Here are some wats the inner voice might manifest: This situation does not serve me. I am uncomfortable here. “x” will never love me, and I do not feel like I love myself with “x” or “y.” The inner voice has a bone-shattering presence and power with the self. A majority of people deny the existence of the inner voice, let alone acknowledge its wisdom.

Through every situation, join yourself through the inner voice, engage with your heart, and appreciate both counsels of heart and mind. The inner voice, like the mind, has its purpose with your spiritual journey. Without using both heart and mind, we see a karmic build-up happens when in neglect.

I do not want to see anyone have a build-up of the inner voice neglected or the mind/gut centers. Remember to be present with the inner voice. Take away all variables from the outside. Go into a safe, quiet place, and listen to the requirements of your heart, the direction your body knows to be true. Connecting to voice and centers is not something that is not impossible. You can learn to hear the inner voice more as you value its presence in your life.

Do you listen to your inner voice? When was a time you listened to your inner voice, and what waste outcome? When were you afraid to listen to the inner voice, and what external factors made you fearful of your inner voice?

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Unbeknownst to you, your daily decisions and actions are thoughts guided by two very subtle yet powerful results to your observations. Your mindsets and values are what shape your life. If you aren’t aware of how you receive information and how you respond both internally and externally, life itself can be driving your car and steering your wheel.

Your decisions and your thoughts direct your experience. What mechanisms you use to absorb and personally adapt the experience to experience. Think about you at this current moment. Are you self aware of how you react to the world around you? Have you let daily experiences take over your emotions? Have you responded to something, only to know that yes, you are reacting, but beyond that, you lack the presence to evaluate what that experience means to you?

I have believed from a very young age that there are two very distinct routes when we find ourselves in the moment of experience:

Perpetual Reacting

Reacting or perpetual reacting is when we experience a situation and respond without a thought. Instead of evaluating and understanding the experience, and instead of how it is separate from us, we should directly identify with the experience. How do these experiences make us feel and think, how does it tie to fear or discomfort? We condition ourselves to avoid or abstain from situations like the ones I am describing. 

There are many ways to how someone can react to an experience. Responding to your situations does not entail the cognitive presence to understand, assess experiences, let alone how to build, learn, and grow. 

If you were to go out to eat with friends, and, for some reason or another, you ended up humiliated or hurt while in this experience, you may say to yourself, “I’m never going out to eat again” or “I’m never going out to eat with these friends again.” The idea here is that when something happens to us, we are so quickly able to condition negative variables to the situation we are experiencing. We do this so we can avoid future negative experiences. 

The issue here is without critical thinking and evaluating the experience before the anchoring happens, we close ourselves off from realistic variables and information that may allow us to grow as people.

The twist here is a majority of the odds it would usually result in the person saying:

“You know what, I knew that these friends were trouble, and I know that they treat me poorly to being with, I can still go out to eat with friends, but with people who respect and appreciate me” had the persona waited to react, or postpone the intense reaction and conditioning.

Experiential Differentiating between (stimulus, self, and both together)

If we are not reacting to an experience for survival, the alternative is knowing how we differentiate from the experience; how we are separate. 

In the example event of going out with friends and having a negative experience, there are two ways you can intrinsically perceive the situation:

1. This experience happened to me, outside of my control (choosing to opt-out of personal responsibility of one’s own life, choosing not to identify with all that is)

2. I somehow contributed to making this experience likely, and inadvertently manifest it (knowing that you played a significant role in what happens

We interchange the two all the time without being aware of it. When we start understanding we are in control of our life, every moment we are taking in information, we synthesize this information according to survival or through a method of adaptation. 

Think for a moment about how you handle the majority of experiences that are above average intensity. How do you manage them? Are you in the moment, or do you lose self-control to survive? Do you experience these situations more personally than you should?

Being self-aware of how you respond and being able to control how you respond can give you more of a chance to learn. Fundamentally this gives you the power of presence. Instead of reacting, being able to be present and assess meanings, learning how to operate under pressure perhaps are some examples of how you can grow. 

The situation may be a verbal discussion between your personal beliefs and somebody else or something serious that requires immediate action. Understanding these methods of interacting with your environment and self is paramount to your awareness and growth.

Our values operate as the ultimate floodgate to the world. Everything passes through what you know to be the truth. Your code, as a result, makes or breaks your purpose, your future, and happiness.

For me, talking about the indifference in values is a big challenge in today’s world. We are overwhelmed with perspective infringing on our daily lives. We can continuously grow and evolve from understanding or become rigid into the modality of “sticking with what works.” 

Given this saying has a time and place, but not with our values. Our values play a role in the architecture of our life. What we do and do not accept. What we enjoy, desire, fear, and so on. There is a difference when I say our values and the values we put on particular variables in our day to day life.

Personal values shape our very immediate lifestyle. Along with our mindset towards life, and the level of positivity that outlook shapes our life. The learning experiences we collect and adopt will force us to understand the world and sub-areas in specific ways that are limiting.

The true nature of values is fluid. If we did not subject ourselves to a limited scope temporarily to understand if those values resonate with us or not, then we would never shift forward into our journey.

For example, your life would look very different if you had healthy self-esteem than if you struggled with unhealthy self-esteem. Our values shape life before our very eyes, which is why our mindsets and how we receive information is so important. 

If unfiltered data and environmental factors slip into the area of our mind where we generate our values, our life can change in an instant. Stay strong and grounded from what you know to be your truth at this moment, and know that your perspective is subject to shift. Your life will change with new perspectives and experiences over time.

People label one another with either being open or closed-minded when it’s the lack of valuing new information to grow and learn. We all have different ways in which we assess life, how we formulate our values, and what we cherish in our environment. If you are a natural-born power-thinker/analyzer, you will always continue to think and analyze for as long as you value those processes.

The level of importance in anything you do is correlated instantly to a “grade of importance” your subconscious gives. 

So remember, next time you want to create something new for yourself, or want to change a bad habit, or change something for the better, it’s all about being interested enough to value it, and then “do” accordingly.

We want to understand how we respond and absorb new data in the world around and inside us. We create the reality we live with every passing-subtle moment. Become more aware of this power. Remember how much this plays a role in how you structure your values and how they can make or break your success and life fulfillment. 

Remember that we value tons of random variables both externally and internally and that being more aware of what we do, puts us more in a position to change and alter our lives in the way we desire.

Being an Entrepreneur is a hard life, seriously. As I emerge more and more into my ventures, the challenges are seemingly endless, with less support around me. 

I was born in sales and had always been in sales from my teenage years to late 2016. I went from selling phones to selling cars to now selling what I want to give back to the world. We all have something that, once we discover our purpose or idea to give back to the world, we want to know how to do that as soon as possible.

I think that once we discover our purpose or missions, we then start the journey, the fight against the world and ourselves. When I figured out I wanted to be a life coach, this is all I ever wanted to do at the time. I wanted to support others on their journey in life and truly motivate the people that need it most. Since this journey, my life has been nothing but difficult.

Up until the end of last December, moving a part-time business forward while having a full-time job is hard, especially when you’re in sales. Having an inconsistent cash flow doesn’t help anyone. I left the dealership I was working at to do my coaching more part-full time. I switched from a full-time supporting job to a part-time job that pays the bills. From then on until now, I am still building my brand, craft, and experience in coaching.

From what I’ve learned through experience, we’re always fighting against ourselves to reach our aspirations. With every decision I have to make, I think in terms of what I’m creating. Every time I wake up late, I think about the time and opportunity I’ve missed to give back to the world. 

Holding ourselves accountable can be a tedious task, and every day I wish the fight would get less challenging. However, that is not the case.

I want you to know that wherever you are on your journey, remember that if you are not holding yourself accountable for giving back, you are doing a disservice to yourself and the people who want and are looking for your passion. Avoid getting distracted by the everyday nuances and duties of our daily lives. Remember that is the objective at hand, and with each little action, we can move forward into that lifestyle of existing.

I am writing this in a coffee shop I have been to too many times. I have been living in a town I do not want to be in anymore, living a lifestyle that does not match my dreams. I can feel myself dying from my situation, and if you can’t feel the death of your dreams behind your shoulders, I think you need to turn around and take a hard look at what that looks like for you.

I might be sounding a little bit exaggerated, but these situations are all too true to the majority of people. If you know what you need to do, then don’t hesitate and make decisions that are necessary to move forward.

Life is not a linear direction. If you were to draw your life journey so far, it would be all over the place, as everyone else’s is. Stay focused on what you want to happen, and enjoy the journey.

All too often, we let comfort or others influence our behavior, decisions, and future direction. The only person who knows what you need to do is you. Whether you’re forty years old and your wife is holding you back from a change you need, or parents that want you to go to college for something you don’t feel in your heart serves you. These people could be your coworkers, friends, family, and random strangers that might not even know you. We are always being held back by these kinds of people. These individuals act almost always as a conflict of interest in their endeavors.

Your inner potential, combined with all the external obstacles out there, makes this the literal fight for your life. You can get comfortable, listen to what people have to say instead of following your direction, and go with the flow of what the majority of people are doing. 

I don’t know about you, but If I were to opt-in for a lifestyle, I would want to be on my own time, surrounded by people that I want around me, and doing what I love all at the same time. The question is, have you been fighting for your life and winning each battle as they come, or have you been raising the flag every day when you wake up? Have you been going easy and let the world thrash your dreams, or are you taking the world by storm?

You should aggrandize your dreams and remind yourself now and again that you’re not living until you’re living up to the purpose, the lifestyle, and dreams you someday want to accomplish.

Every day we fight, and so my question to you is when you go to bed, what are you saying? Do you say to yourself, “another victory until tomorrow,” or do you say, “another day I distracted myself from getting to where I inevitably want to be?” Know one is telling you how to live your life, but don’t succumb and be blinded by everything life throws at you. We’re all in this game to fight against our challenges.

How are you going to win your fight in life? What needs to be accomplished so you can thrive? What changes do you need to make, and what is it going to take to get you to the lifestyle you want?

Where will you be a year from now?

Happy Holidays! If you are lucky enough to spend time with loved ones, I implore you to be humble and present with them. As we get older, and as life goes on, keeping up with family can elude the mind and create an absence in the heart that could be too easy to ignore. 

If you are someone that yearns to have an active lifestyle with your family 24/7, I commend you. If you are someone that desires to be a part of a family, I expect you’ll find this connection somewhere in your life. If you are someone who is on the grind, make sure to at least call or text. If you want to go the extra mile, send them a brief appreciation abstract (I do this from time to time).

A little goes a long way, and a little more than that can be unexpectedly big for someone. A lot of people go through life distanced or neglected from people they care about during the year, let alone holidays. I think it is essential to be mindful of who these people are or can be. 

During the holidays especially, overlooking those who don’t have it as great connection wise can be easy to miss. People start reaching out to you again, or for many, bombard you with things to do and expectations to fulfill. There are preparations to be made, social pressure to either “tiptoe” or conform too familially. 

I think it’s important to be humble and think, amongst the holiday chaos, to be grateful. Not only to be appreciative for what you have but think about your received gratuity in proportion to how much you have in life. I think it’s humbling to be grateful for how much is going right in your life as much as it is a disaster(if it is a disaster.) 

Regardless of where you are in life, there is someone in the world less fortunate than you. Let facts like these sink in instead of floating on the surface. I’m not saying to go socialist with your time and attention to people who are in need, but why not if you can?

This idea has been a theme in my life for a very long time, and this is no sense a fabrication in the making for a pity party. I work a lot. I’m not in a local area where my nuclear family is, and neither is my extended family any closer in proximity.

For the holidays, I do my best to travel and see the people I care most about, and sometimes it doesn’t work out as you would want. Thankfully, I have created a network of other families where my direct family falls short. I think there is only so much we can do, and at some point, you have to say:

“Family means (x) to me, and if I don’t have (x) I should try my best with the family I was born with, and if that doesn’t work, what I’m looking for does exist somewhere else in the world, and I should look for that.” 

I have the conversation relating to family struggles with a lot of people. To some people, their family feels foreign to them. To some people, they are desperately trying to escape a toxic family environment. For a lot of people, they seek out online communities. Although I think valuing your direct family is super important, sometimes life doesn’t allow you to take advantage of what you are born with for whatever reason. Those are just the cards of the game, and if that’s you’re hand, make the most of them.

You can spearhead the initiative with your family directly and healthily only to still have an unhealthy dynamic. Or you can go the route of doing this with a surrogate family where your efforts are well received and who you are as a person is appreciated.

Or,

You can spearhead the initiative with your family directly and healthily, or do what you have been doing and expect the same expected spectrum your family offers. 

Another option is not to include your family at all. The sky is the limit.

Neither option is good or bad. The choice depends on your values. I’ve always been the kind of person to try my best with what I am capable of doing for the people I care about, whoever they are.

During the holidays, I can feel a bit dramatic at times. There is always a lot going on with me emotionally and mentally. I wish sometimes I could share my life with people that should (subjective) or want to care. I think about the people who don’t see the hardships I experience and desiring to know the difficulties they face. I think about how hard it is to respect the fact that some people don’t want to be a part of your life. 

I think about the families that have the idea in mind of tomorrow bringing uncertainty. I think about the people that stay busy to compensate for the lack of closeness in their life. There is a lot that goes on that doesn’t meet the eye in the people around us. I emphasis gratitude for what we have and awareness for what exists outside the comfort, outside the discomfort, and uncertainty of tomorrow.  

Remember to have gratitude in whatever experience you find yourself. No matter how difficult or how amazing it may be, there is always the inverse that is a reality for someone in the world. Life is too short to miss out on the people in your life, whoever they may be.

Life gives you infinite choices in perpetuity, whether that fact is realized or hidden in your shadows.

Good communication is hard to obtain when two people are subscribing their meanings to what each other are saying. 

For example,

You’re talking to a romantic partner about something that means a lot to you. Let’s say the example is how big of a deal it is to open up about feelings you have towards your partner. However, when you said the words “open up” or “feelings” to your partner, they reacted negatively to the way you brought things up. The conversation becomes derailed. A conversation about feelings and being vulnerable has now morphed into something other than what it meant to be.

Sounds familiar? Even if you have not experienced this kind of situation before, there is something similar you have experienced, and that is miscommunication! When someone applies their context words and phrases, making your words something altogether different from your intended meaning.

Miscommunication happens with parents, significant others, coworkers, managers, acquaintances, teachers; the list goes on and on.

Miscommunication happens when someone isn’t actively listening with a lack of desire to understand your point of view. The individual may also neglect to comprehend you have a perspective that differs from theirs. 

These are the main reasons why people miscommunicate without even including culture and demographics. I wanted to focus on these points separate from demographic and culture to emphasize how much there could be a lack of comprehension. Without comprehension, without someone being able to conceptualize that you are a separate individual with your thoughts, you have to be careful. You have to be mindful of how you converse with others and how those conversations mature based on what your goal is. 

To fathom this meaning and the accompanying purposes that follow, you cannot expect to be heard, to be felt, to be understood, or acknowledged.

These points are a hard reality of communication. You cannot expect someone to be skilled, let alone interested in chess, taking the time to learn the game, or how to navigate the board. You can’t expect a relative to cook chicken parmesan without having the interest and practice in learning to make it. 

The same goes for communication. People need to have a desire to not only communicate but to have the desire to understand what you’re saying.

Makes sense, right? You would think this is everyone’s narrative. If this were true, ultimately, then miscommunication wouldn’t exist. The harsh reality is that people are always looking to get something out of a conversation by default. There is going to be something left untranslated. When I say harsh reality, I do not cynically mean this. It is a fact of communication.

Communication with definition manifests not only with words but with emotional expression, physical behavior, and subtle attitudes (how someone feels about something according to their values). These variables add to the complexity of personal background, communication-like attributes manifest. 

How could you put this into practice? 

In a conversation, create the space for listening to the words people are using, how they are saying these words, and how they are noticing you doing the same. This format is a good starting point. Typically people don’t think about how you are talking because they assume you are defaulting to what they think of the words you are using. 

Keep in mind that if you are talking about “something” delicate or that the “something” has any significance, make it a note to emphasize this. Keep tabs on how you are communicating about it. When conversations get serious, it’s more likely that energy will either try to stay aligned or become derailed.

Something I do in conversations that helps is slowing the pace of the conversation and look for clarity and context. What are they trying to say, and where are they coming from saying it? When you slow down the pace of a discussion, you can process the conversation more efficiently than if it were intense or fast-paced. I’ll be going more into context as you read.

For Example,

Bob wants to talk to Steve about something Steven is doing that bothers Bob. The conversation starts intense because Bob is charged (emotionally) about the topic he is bringing up. Steven takes this opportunity to slow down the conversation and to understand why Bob is upset. Steven tells Bob, “Let’s pause for a second,” bringing the conversation to a halt so that clarification can form. Steven can now figure out the context for himself, and, as a result, he doesn’t get charged or affected by the opposing energy automatically. 

This conversation would be more difficult for both Bob and Steven if they didn’t pause to gain clarity and context. Both allow empathy and sympathy a seat at the dialogue. This conversation wouldn’t even be worth having if they weren’t going in uninterested and in an agreed-benefited outcome. In essence, walk with caution when these standards are being overlooked or gaslighted.

Context has probably been more increasingly present in my thoughts as I talk to people as I get older. As I get more experience talking to more people in different kinds of conversations personally and professionally, I’ve started to understand that context becomes more and more vital.

Applying context to how people use their words helps you understand them. Context can also garner trust, attraction, friendliness, and general likability. It can be the difference between getting a sale, nailing an interview, or being understood by a love interest! Being able to identify someone understanding you is essential to communication.

Interpreting someone’s language can be challenging. The reward of taking the time to understand what someone is talking about and what this person means is effortless communication. We have all been in a conversation where we don’t even know why we’re in it. We sometimes choose to stay in a conversation with low interest because we often do not know how to elevate the quality naturally.

I think that throwing out into reality your honest thoughts and desires with someone is a great thing!

“Sorry to interrupt, but I think I want to understand you more when you are talking about (x) to me, that is interesting, and I want to get a better idea of who you are”

Sometimes a little shock to the conversations brings the dialogue alive in a way where the other participant realizes and also acknowledges when it can be better. Don’t ever be afraid to make the situation more “real” or in-depth. We are entertaining conversations at a baseline interest level. This baseline isn’t high, and it’s our mistake for not taking advantage of more opportunities with people while we are talking to them. Think about all the conversations you’ve experienced when it was really to pass the time. You could have taken the opportunity to explore more interesting ideas, experiences, or emotions with that person! 

I think we are quick to evaluate what people can offer us. Sometimes being a little bit more curious about people can lead to an interesting daily life.

In this article, I’ve discussed different ways to think about how context plays out in daily conversations, to unique scenarios. Miscommunication is going to happen to some degree, and it’s up to you how wide that valley remains. There is a lot of unknowns when the context of someone’s words is left unchecked. The same goes for you. Without context applied to your reality, people are missing out on what you are saying. 

I hope this time looking at communication will help you in future conversations! More ideas to come.

2020 has been a trying year so far. As usual, the year is, without hesitation, throwing at me many challenges that could appear to be insurmountable. Then, within this chaos of keeping the mental discord of my troubles at arm’s length, I started to think about all the tribulations I’ve faced. I started to think about all the hardships that I have conquered and thought about how hard it really is to persevere.

You can never objectify hardship, though the idea of judging situations can seem all too easy. So-and-so lost a dog, how bad is that really? You’re a little in debt, try being in $x amount in debt.

It’s easy to minimize what seems to be arbitrary to ourselves. I mean, after all, we can’t possibly know someone else’s internal stuff. We can only know ours. We do it all the time, telling people to “get over it” or “keeping moving forward,” but, is that how you really persevere?

For example, one of the times I had reminisced was when I was homeless. I had to walk four miles a day from the shelter I was staying at to reach a Starbucks to get access to WiFi. Every day I walked there to invest the $100 I had in the market, to maybe make a profit, to buy food, to save and buy other things I needed so I can move forward with my life.

I think about what perseverance back then means, to survive, to escape a situation in hopes something better comes along. I think diluting the word persevere is easy. Many people are, on one end, driving away from surviving, while the other, is re-experiencing and staying in their cyclic motions sticking to their own challenges like a bug stuck in its own trap. Are they not in process of persevering?

Something is interesting about the idea of perseverance, in that the line between perseverance and negligence is very small, both in observation and in practice. It is a small line. It is small because diverged are two groups of people; one that has persevered, and the other yet to observantly become the succeeding.

Maybe this concept could ideally portray the rich and the poor. How, when you grow accustomed to persevering the world of negligence dissipates into literal non-existence. While the life, the reality of trying, struggling, getting by, seems like a growing snowball, overshadowing any glimpse of the optimistic bright side of life.

People who thrive seem to skip over these conversations, however. They are an unwelcome fog on a sunny day. People who suffer cyclic negligence the same, stuck in their story, a myriad of problems, and they can’t seem to penetrate that fog into the sunlight.

Recently, I have been experiencing a lot. My first “real” car accident that I was harmed in, debt, pain, and more hardship. I think back to all that I have experienced in my life and I am constantly finding myself asking the question, “Am I persevering, am I moving forward, am I creating what I want for myself?” It makes me think about whether I am in the negligence space or the “persevering” space.

How do we know really what side we’re on? I think the answer is really simple. I think the answer is, whatever you tell yourself you become. If you let the situations you’re walking in grip your mind, let the situations you’re walking through tell you what you’re story is, then you are in negligence. The moment we are not telling ourselves the story we want is when we are negligent and falling from our potential serenity.

Writing this I feel like I’m in this space, just a tad. The last couple of days has shown me how easy it is to fall back into cyclical negligence. I’m not sure if you have noticed, but there is something about persevering, and keeping our external reality away from the “controlling your story” button. I think this is why we see a lot of people move on from friends, situations, careers, even family. There is a time to just let go of what doesn’t need to be carried.

I think that for some people they will always stay in negligence, and come back to it more than to move on from what’s keeping them in the same mental and physical space. For others, they disappeared, as if they side-stepped into another channel on the TV, where they shifted into a persevering reality.

I think there is beauty in both worlds coexisting. Where the persevered have to walk life seeing the faint mirage of themselves in the position of negligence, to remind themselves where they used to be. Where the negligent have to walk with the preserved, and either see the fog that surrounds them, or the sunlight that overreaches their fog.

“If anything can go right, it will”

“If anything bad can happen, it will”

Two popular ideas spoke by two different realities.

An excerpt from thought.

Are you living life outside of the box?

What do you consider living outside of the box? What does that look like? How does this phrase make sense to you, and how do you think it makes sense to others? Very rarely do we often find ourselves in a position where we are considering how others think and act in their reality.

To some people, living life outside the box can mean taking more than the usual vacation days off, to others it can mean “my life is a vacation.” I think we as people are so quick to categorize, repel, or absorb the people around us that we often don’t consider what it is we are actually doing; in terms of participating with others.

From an early age, I noticed something that people do, and at the time I didn’t understand it. To me, it was an anomalous behavior people have with groups and society. As I grew older I’ve come to realize more or less what it was that I was witnessing, and how it plays a big part in our lives playing out in the future.

What is this behavior? I think it can be described as the choice we make to participate with others, and what these choices mean for our own version of living outside the box.

When people “opt-in” for something other than them individually, like a friendship or integrating into a bigger network/construct or group, I think part of this idea is sacrificed.

To assimilate, there must be an adjustment on your end. The space you are stepping into is itself a box in its own way, no matter how ridiculous it may seem. For some who are in a cult, and have grown up in this environment and appears normative, others who do not exist in this environment can appear to be living outside the box.

The point is, all at once, there are endless overlays to yours and other spaces you are jointly participating in, and amongst all of this experience, do you know what it means to live outside the box for you?

For me living outside the box is independence. Independence to me means financial freedom. To do whatever I want when I want, and to be surrounded by others who are living in this box that I identify with.

I think the plot to my blog today is:

Do you know what it means to live outside the box for you, and how do you allow your lifestyle (if you are living up to it) thrive in a sea of other random boxes you are apart of.

In a world where you are put on a pedestal as much as ever before, how are you coexisting with society’s ankle weights? How are you coexisting with family and the convenient individuals in your life?

For many readers out there, I think there is another idea that will also resonate. Not everyone is aspiring to have their own version of living outside of the box. They in fact value living within a box with many others! There is a sense of community when you identify with something greater than yourself. For most as well, living outside the box may not sit well.

The idea sounds riskier, nomadic, and maverick like. However, on the service I making it seem so when in reality, we all gravitate towards specific things that make up our box, whether we live in or strive to live out of it.

*This is not a “new age” post*

Welcome back to the philosophical party! I was reminiscing on some ideas about reality, and I wanted to share the several angles I thought about to maybe come to some sense of a consensus on the following question.

What the hell do we do with all this dimensional overlay in our/your/this reality, and then “do” life?

Recently, I’ve been going through some social transitions, and I, in an effort to rationalize my feelings with some intuitive foresight, have concluded that there may be in fact some overlay between systems in reality.

Let me explain.

I think that reality works kind of like a multi overlay of a solar system orbit. The earth rotates and also moves through the universe, beyond that, the planets rotate around the sun, beyond that, the sun rotates in conjunction with the galaxy.

There seems to be a pattern where life has patterns with patterns, actions within actions underneath. It made me think about how reality intersects with bigger parts of itself.

To answer the question above we need to focus on this idea of how there is an infinity of systems playing within each other, combined with the idea that we operate our lives in multiple ways that use different systems that operate under different dimensional contexts.

For example, it seems that singular actions that someone can potentially make are one dimensional. We know this is true because it is to my knowledge impossible to do two simultaneous actions with one originator and get a 100% directed impact on both actions. You could argue this concept in monogamy versus polygamy. Is it possible to focus on two and yield not only a healthy outcome but a 100% successful relationship for both?

My perspective is that one-dimensionality is all “cause and effect,” submitting to either side of duality, all things in life that seemingly can and stereotypically cannot give you fulfillment. You can argue that decisions and choices are one dimensional, and the choices and decisions you make in life will never actually lead you to happiness alone.

Maybe, depending on what you want from one-dimensionality determines the kind of effects that come to pass? Maybe we can do more when we intersect one-dimensional actions with multidimensional ones.

So what is a multidimensional action, if it has action potential, or is it something else? What in life reverberates multidimensional actions from the one dimensional? We know that something has to happen from one source to create one dimensional. When we factor multiple though, does that mean it comes multidimensional?

Alone we may operate as a levy system, only doing one momentary action at a time before switching, for the sake of genetics, science, or something else that explains our biological courses.

Is it with people and objects alone that shape reality, that intertwines with different dimensions to create the multiple? By being a people are we participating passively with one another to create the multidimensional that appears to be before us, and alone, only able to participate on a singular level?

Are we handicapped to operate as we do, or is there more at play? Why is that I operated with my heart in one moment, and switch to head to another? Why can’t we autonomously synchronize with others to create a multilateral interface to create multidimensional experiences first hand?

If I am watching sports through a one-person view as they are in that experiencing it, why can’t I experience their experience?

Dan, we are disconnected from other’s experiences, duh. I know that we are all not connected, or else we would be in some utopian land of consciousness. My question is why are we able to create faux pas dimensional experiences, and yet not able to create real ones?

Maybe it is an evolution that is creating this change. Elon Musk’s Neural Link in its later stages is quoted to have the potential to bring each other into sharing thoughts and conversations without needing to talk.

Without technological advances, will we be able to do what technology makes possible with multidimensional actions/experiences?

I wanted to go back to the unanswered idea. What does it mean to have a multidimensional experience? Could it be in one place while being somewhere else experience another?

Without technology, how does this happen? Medication can be one example of this? It may have the potential to create multiple experiences at once. Why is it difficult to think about these ideas intangibles?

My ending thoughts on one-dimensionality for now is that it holds an extreme utility for how this world as it stands operates. You make a decision, you create an action, and then these actions echo into a delta of other realities you are not a part of directly.

To think that passively you have aided in thousands of actions you are not aware of is a gift to the world.

Maybe in the future, the narrative for one-dimensional actions shift towards the awareness of how these actions echo in multidimensional realities. Would it be nice to always know what effects our actions have? How they will create change.

With the help of technology, maybe we will get a grasp over our role in our developing one-dimensional self and realities connected, or, if not advanced, be totally obliterated by operating in one-dimensionality alone.

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